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I can’t ejaculate more than once anymore.
I used to be able to orgasm, then after twenty minutes or so, do it again if the conditions were right, but now it takes much longer.
Is this a hormonal thing or what?
That waiting period between one climax and another is called your refractory period.
And if your period has increased, there have definitely been some hormonal changes in your system.
Low testosterone is the most obvious culprit, as this is the hormone that fuels sex drive in men.
But studies have demonstrated that prolactin and oxytocin play a big part in this as well because both of these hormones increase dramatically after you ejaculate.
And once they come into the picture, your sex drive is going to go down, because this is what these hormones do to a man, especially prolactin.
They’re also responsible for the fatigue you feel after you have an orgasm. So when you feel like rolling over and going to sleep after taking care of business, these are the guys to blame.
Now, this situation is no big deal in a younger man who’s loaded with testosterone. He can ejaculate, roll over for a while, then easily go at it again.
And why are these younger guys so lucky?
Because the reduction in T every man experiences after a climax is quickly recovered because his testicles are functioning at a very high level…
So his testosterone levels recover in double time after an ejaculation, which causes prolactin and oxytocin levels to go right back down again.
But when an older guy (who has lower testosterone to begin with) is exposed to these hormones, they stick around for a while because his body is not reloading testosterone at the same rate as the younger guy.
This is the most likely explanation of your increased refractory period, D.
In one study done at Rutger’s University, they had a subject who was able to climax 6 times in a period of 36 minutes.
This man actually had no refractory period at all.
Testing confirmed that this individual had close to a zero prolactin response after climaxing; and because of this he suffered from no fatigue or tiredness after he ejaculated.
The lack of prolactin also reduced the drop in testosterone that normally occurs in men with a normal prolactin response.
The International Journal of Impotence Research reported on another multi-orgasmic man who also showed no prolactin response after three back to back orgasms.
I haven’t seen any studies that confirm this, but I have a feeling that most younger men produce less prolactin than older guys do after a climax…
Your average 18 year old can reload and go again anywhere from 2 to 15 minutes, while a 75 year old man may have to wait 24 hours or more.
And I’m certain this is a combination of higher baseline testosterone levels in younger men, combined with a lower prolactin response.
And there’s one more piece to this puzzle, because prolactin also pushes dopamine levels down. That’s the risk/reward neurotransmitter that also plays a big part in sexual motivation and drive.
How To Ejaculate More Than Once – In 3 Steps
So in answer to your question, to reduce your refractory period, the first thing you need to do is bump your testosterone levels up a notch or two.
In addition to this, you need to focus on reducing your prolactin and oxytocin response when your goal is to ejaculate more than once during a sexual encounter.
You can accomplish this by reducing post orgasm cuddle time, because this behavior will spike both of these hormones in your body.
As a matter of fact, oxytocin is often referred to as the pair bonding hormone. So the more you bond after sex, the more oxytocin you’re going to get.
And finally, you can spike testosterone and reduce the bonding hormones even further by being dominant and aggressive during the sex act..
Because dominant and aggressive behavior is the exact opposite of behavior associated with pair bonding. Your body will respond to this accordingly.
That explains why it’s always a good idea to jump out of bed quickly after having sex in the morning – because if you pair bond after you climax, it will be a very exhausting day for you.
But at night, you can play this one of two ways….
You can go hard and aggressive, and limit cuddle time after your first climax if you want to shorten your refractory period and go at it again.
Then, once you’ve climaxed a second time, you can give your girl the pair bonding and cuddle time all women need.
Or, if climaxing twice, ejaculating and pair bonding isn’t interesting, then roll over for what’s probably going to be a very good nights sleep.
Thanks for your question.
Update – What to Eat to Ejaculate Harder
There are actually quite a few foods out there that will increase your T levels.
Increased testosterone will help shorten your refractory period and allow you to ejaculate harder and more often.
This is one of the easiest ways to give yourself a noticeable boost in the bedroom.
Overall, it pays to maintain healthy eating habits. Eating an unbalanced diet or overeating regularly will definitely hurt your T levels.
So with that in mind, let’s check out a few foods that will boost T levels.
Vitamin A is one of the most critical vitamins for testosterone production. If you’re not getting enough of it, then you’re T levels are probably taking a hit.
Studies have shown that when you don’t have enough Vitamin A swimming around in your balls, testosterone levels drop rapidly and estrogen production increases – not good. (source)
Other studies have also been able to show a clear link between Vitamin A levels and testosterone. (source)
So Vitamin A is pretty important. How do you get more of it? Try eating these foods.
- Sweet potatoes
- Beef liver
- Cod liver oil
This one is commonly called the sunshine vitamin because we can actually absorb it right from the sun.
If you spend most of your days indoors then your Vitamin D levels are likely lower than they should be.
There’s a huge range of benefits to getting some extra Vitamin D in your system. It will improve your mood and overall health – and it will also boost your T levels.
Studies have shown that higher levels of Vitamin D show a significant positive correlation with high testosterone levels. (source)
Even taking a Vitamin D supplement can have big benefits. Studies have confirmed that consistent supplementation can lead to about a 25% lift in overall testosterone levels. (source)
Other than a supplement, how do you get more Vitamin D? Check out these foods.
- Wild-caught fish
- Egg yolks
Magnesium is critical for your body. In fact, it controls more than 300 bodily functions and is key for maintaining heart, bone, and digestive health.
This mineral has also been shown to have a direct effect on testosterone levels in several scientific studies.
In one study, subjects were given magnesium supplements equal to 10mg per kilogram of body weight over a 4 week period.
Results from that study showed that magnesium increased overall testosterone levels in both athletes and sedentary subjects. (source)
In another study, this one done on older men, results showed that the relationship between magnesium and overall T levels was strong and highly significant. (source)
So what should you eat to get more magnesium in your diet? Try these foods.
- Dark chocolate
- Cacao beans/powder
- Brazil nuts
- Swiss chard
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Plasma Oxytocin Increases in the Human Sexual Response
Male Reproductive Behavior – Dopamine and the Post-Ejaculatory Refractory Period
Absence of Orgasm-Induced Prolactin Secretion in a Healthy Multi-Orgasmic Male Subject
Regulation and perturbation of testicular functions by vitamin A
The effect of nutritional factors on sex hormone levels in male twins
Association of vitamin D status with serum androgen levels in men
Effect of vitamin D supplementation on testosterone levels in men
Effects of magnesium supplementation on testosterone levels of athletes and sedentary subjects at rest and after exhaustion