Premature ejaculation is no fun, I have been there. Fortunately, it’s a solvable issue.
How did I manage to delay ejaculation? I used the 4 proven methods that I discuss in this article. These methods are easy to apply and only need one thing to ensure a lasting result: perseverance.
If you are anything like me, you probably know the shame surrounding this trouble. Well, you shouldn’t feel ashamed – premature ejaculation is actually very common.
If you are looking to prolong your sexy time, you will find the following information useful.
If you’re also dealing with weak ejaculation, check out this article to learn more about what causes it and how you can fight back.
Learn How to Delay Ejaculation with 4 Proven Methods
First off, you should know that this won’t be an instant process – it will require patience and a bit of hard work. But if you stick to these methods, you can make a measningful change!
Premature ejaculation is characterized by an incapacity to control excitation which results in a very fast ejaculation that will dramatically shorten the sexual act. Consequently, premature ejaculation will create dissatisfaction for the man and also, his partner. (source)
It’s also important to note that a lack of confidence and fear about sexual performance can aggravate the phenomenon. However, whether it’s due to a lack of experience, a stress increase or a physical issue, there’s no need to panic.
You can easily fix your premature ejaculation by following these 4 proven methods.
1. Slow Things Down at the Right Moment
If passion is overtaking all of your other senses, then I highly recommend you to try the following exercise.
This exercise was developed by renowned American sexologists Masters and Johnson. It’s called the stop & go. By practicing it regularly, you will be able to balance your levels of excitement and extend your naughty activities.
So, how do you get started?
First, when you feel like you are about to ejaculate, stop the penetration if needed and concentrate to block your release.
To calm yourself down, try to go back to foreplay with gentle caresses and kissing. Take your time to enjoy and discover your partners body. Enjoy her smell, curves and revel in the sensuality of the moment.
Only when you are sufficiently calm should you try penetration again.
Your partner will also appreciate the extra attention to her body. This will build up excitement for her, leading to higher chances of an explosive orgasm.
Extra Tip: If you are really struggling to control yourself before the “explosion” and foreplay doesn’t do the trick try this: grab your penis with your index and middle finger amd compress under the head of your penis for at least 3 seconds. This works 90% of the time to stop ejaculation.
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2. Try Delaying Condoms
Sometimes, premature ejaculation is linked to a hypersensitive head of the penis. If your penis is a bit ticklish and a few movements make it explode, you might want to try delaying condoms.
Delaying condoms can be an efficient solution if your little friend is oversensitive.
You have two choices:
- Anatomical condom that will slightly compress the head of your penis and physically delay the ejaculation
- Condom coated in an anesthetic that reduces skins sensitivity
This is more of a tool than a solution to delay ejaculation, but it will help.
Extra Tip: If you’re not too keen on condoms, you can buy a anesthetic gel. There are several on the market to choose from.
3. Reinforce your Pelvic Muscles with Kegel Exercises
Kegel exercises were originally developed for women after childbirth. However, people soon realized that they could be very useful to improve erectile function. (source)
Kegel exercises reinforce the pelvic floor muscles, the same muscles that you use when peeing or when having a nice hard erection.
To practice, start with this exercise:
- Contract your pelvic muscles for 3 seconds, as if you were blocking urine, then release for 6 seconds
- Repeat this 20 times at least once per day (2-3 times per day will bring faster results)
- Do this consistently for 6 to 8 weeks minimum
Extra Tip: Once you can easily do this, you can increase the level of difficulty by adding a sock or a small piece of fabric on your penis.
Looking for additional Kegel exercises? Check out this article for more.
4. Discover New Positions
Whether you are into new sexual adventures or prefer less “risqué” sex, changing positions can help you delay ejaculation.
Firstly, after foreplay, avoid the missionary position. Yes, it’s a practical position but it creates pressure on the abdomen which in return, facilitates ejaculation.
Therefore, I recommend that you avoid it if you want to extend the duration of your shared pleasure.
I would also take this a step further and try to avoid all positions which create pressure on the abdomen. Instead, ask your partner to get on top.
There are many different positions to extend and improve sexual intercourse. For some examples, check out the Kama Sutra or Taoist sexual practices. Just type one of those in a search engine and you’ll find what you need.
Update – Does Masturbation Cause Premature Ejaculation?
I get tons of questions about the impact of masturbation on sexual health. The good news is that there’s actually a massive amount of science behind this topic.
The most common thing I hear is that masturbation can lower testosterone levels. However, according to the science, that’s not necessarily true.
But does this habit contribute to premature ejaculation? Let’s take a look at the data.
Effects of Masturbation on Testosterone Levels
Does masturbation lower testosterone levels?
This is one of the most common topics out there today on men’s health blogs and forums. The general consensus seems to be that masturbation is bad for T levels – but the science says something different.
One study done on monkeys found that there was no significant impact on T levels after ejaculation. (source)
Another study done on mice found very similar results – there was no major impact on testosterone levels after ejaculation. (source)
This human study found that masturbation had no significant impact on plasma testosterone levels. (source)
Another study done on humans reported similar results as well. After subjects achieved a masturbation-induced orgasm, T levels remained stable with no significant increase or decrease. (source)
So bottom line: masturbation doesn’t appear to impact testosterone levels. There’s also no evidence in these studies to suggest that it contributes to premature ejaculation.
Does Abstinence Help Delay Ejaculation?
Remember how I said earlier that too much excitement about sex can contribute to premature ejaculation?
It’s true – getting too excited can bring you to orgasm much faster than you might want. So, does abstinence from sex cause extra excitement and therefore premature ejaculation?
In the last study I mentioned above, subjects were subjected to a 3-week period of abstinence from all sexual activity prior to the test – meaning no masturbation, no orgasms.
Results showed that abstinence actually had a bigger impact on T levels than ejaculation did. Abstinence caused T levels to increase across the board.
However, too much abstinence can have the opposite effect. One study found that long-term abstinence of 3 months or longer can significantly reduce T levels. (source)
In these studies, there was no data to suggest that abstinence had any impact on premature ejaculation.
What Causes Premature Ejaculation?
In general, there’s no science to confirm that masturbation or abstinence have any impact on premature ejaculation.
So what contributes to premature ejaculation?
In reality, there are a few major factors, but the exact cause isn’t known. The best we can do is say that it involves a complex interaction of both psychological and biological factors.
On the psychological (mental) side of things, the biggest cause is anxiety or stress related to sexual activity.
If you’re stressed out, you can’t fully enjoy sex. Stress raises your cortisol levels which in turn, kills your T levels. You can try eating some foods high in vitamin E or taking a few probiotic supplements to combat high cortisol levels.
A major biological factor is low testosterone. There are tons of potential causes of low T. To address this, I recommend avoiding harmful chemicals, losing excess fat, eating certain fruits, and supplementing with a few proven herbs.
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Effects of ejaculation on levels of testosterone, cortisol, and luteinizing hormone in peripheral plasma of rhesus monkeys
Acute changes in plasma testosterone levels and their relation to measures of sexual behaviour in the male house mouse
Studies on the relationship between plasma testosterone levels and human sexual activity
Endocrine response to masturbation-induced orgasm in healthy men following a 3-week sexual abstinence
Lack of sexual activity from erectile dysfunction is associated with a reversible reduction in serum testosterone